Learning to Say No
Honestly, I have no idea how to say no. When I hear about a new thing to do, my first reaction is excitement.
For example, a school friend told me she was planning to start work on her 30 credits past a Masters, and I said "no way." I am too old to do this and I don't have the money and I don't have the time. But when I looked into it and saw how on-line classes were flexible enough to fit into my schedule, and I saw that there was a payment plan and I remembered how much I enjoyed taking graduate classes and I looked at the salary guide and saw how quickly I would make up the money, I was completely on board. I jumped in with both feet and I was so excited about picking my classes and planning my schedule. My friend, meanwhile, said that she needs more time to think about it and may start in the summer. So even when I say no, I can talk myself into taking on more work.
I did refuse some committee selections at school because I didn't really see the value of working on them. So I guess I am slowly learning to create some margin in my life.
For example, a school friend told me she was planning to start work on her 30 credits past a Masters, and I said "no way." I am too old to do this and I don't have the money and I don't have the time. But when I looked into it and saw how on-line classes were flexible enough to fit into my schedule, and I saw that there was a payment plan and I remembered how much I enjoyed taking graduate classes and I looked at the salary guide and saw how quickly I would make up the money, I was completely on board. I jumped in with both feet and I was so excited about picking my classes and planning my schedule. My friend, meanwhile, said that she needs more time to think about it and may start in the summer. So even when I say no, I can talk myself into taking on more work.
I did refuse some committee selections at school because I didn't really see the value of working on them. So I guess I am slowly learning to create some margin in my life.
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